Are we talking about the same book "The way of the superior man"???? Nothing you say matches up to the book I have in front of me.
Deida makes it too easy to give up and divorce,
Page 151: "This is exactly what a mediocre man does: He stays with a woman or project as long as they interest him and turn him on. When the excitement seems to wear off, he moves on..."
Page 151:" although both of you are playing into this downward spiral of endarkening depolarization, you MUST NOT blame her. A superior man always assumes complete responsibility, knowing that ultimately, he has no control at all... He acts with impeccable courage and persistence, expecting NOTHING but the inherent feeling of completeness he enjoys in the fullest giving of his gift."
page 153: " Sometimes you must move on, to another job or another woman. That's fine, IF it is a true movement of growth: clear empowering and an aspect of ongoing giving of your gift. But, MORE OFTEN THAN NOT, your first impulse to move on comes when you have ceased invading the moment with your fullest capacity to give and are instead DRONING along, coping rather than creating"..."rather than deciding to move on because you are TOO WEAK to overcome your own neutralized lack of desire, try to take on the challenge of manifesting love in the dreary world and in your dreary woman."
Sorry but none of that sounds like an easy pass to leaving your woman. It sounds like he believes most superior men don't have to leave them. Deida also makes it clear in his book that the man should never desire more then his wife Where and in what context does he say this??? Please give the exact quote and page number.
This is contradicting himself, don't need your woman to desire you, but if she does not desire enough, move on to the next woman.
Again where specifically does he say this in the book? I am using direct quotes and I cannot find where Deida says anything that you are "quoting" from him.
Cemar,
What about you should your wife be attracted to? What would ANY woman find attractive in you? Seriously what do you believe makes you a great man and a great person?
For example, while I have numerous faults, I do believe I have certain characteristics that would attract some men (and one in particular:)). i know those characteristics and (try) to nourish them.
What are your characteristics that you nourish??
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
