She became LD after the kids, so you need to figure out why. Well, there are several reasons. #1, hormones. #2, she no longer like the way she looks. #3, she got a hypoactive thyroid after the first child. #4, she became to busy. #5 To much Mr. Nice Guy from me. #1 and #2 are the primary reasons according to her. She hate what has happend to her body, but she really struggles to lose weight (and she trys), so I don't really see her solving this (she was not a small person to start).
Has it ever occurred to you that if she is having sex with you regularly, she thinks you're satisfied with that? I am having sex on average about 6 times a year, not exactly regularly. Sometimes go for months without it.
She must know you are unhappy, but she assumes it's because you aren't happy with her as a (house)wife and mother, because those are the messages you are sending her by refusing to praise what she does. She knows deep down that I am unhappy because she is not physical with me, and I know this from hints in her comments. She once apologized for being so physical with me in our early relationship, which is so freaking stupid, she should be apologising for what she is TODAY, what she was before was good.
As for the unloveable, possibly. Men seek admiration and Desire from their wives. I would think that most normal people would WANT to know that they cause physical desire in their spouse. If we don't, then we fail, we are unloveable.
I am just wondering, why are we asking the HD men to change their LL? Everyone says to see the love they are giving in the WRONG LL. Why are us guys being expected to give up our own LL, and go to some LL that is FAR less fulfilling. Is it not the responsibility of BOTH spouses to speak the others LL. I just get the feeling that people are essentially giving LD women a pass on this one, that they believe that LD women can't really learn to speak the LL physical touch.
