I think the hardest part with counseling for many people is that they feel it is a judgment of who they are at the core. That somehow if you need counseling it is a judgment about you.
It is a judgement about you, or at least an indication that you can't handle some part of your life without help. You think of people who had something worse happen to them who manage to deal with it while you have to run to a counselor. You think of people you've met who go to counselors and get nowhere. You think of people who start acting really strangely after counseling, who bail out of long-term commitments or cut themselves off from everyone they know or preach what might as well be a new religion. You wonder if you'll get counseling and then still be unable to deal with or fix whatever is wrong and then find yourself completely out of options.
Originally Posted By: fearless
Instead I think counseling is more about recognizing specifics issues that are problematic for you (and those closest to you!) and dealing with them.
And dealing with the fact that normal people deal with those issues just fine, and accepting it and being happy with yourself anyway. That takes time.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
