Well, I just had a brief talk with her, offering to listen to her without judgment, pretense, or anger. It was as if CL wrote the script: I got me nowhere. First, she denied sleepwalking. Said it did not happen. I KNOW that it did, I heard her cry out and walk around the house. Then she said, "I don't know how to take this." I told her, "Take it for what it is: an offer of assistance. Nothing more." If I got to her, it did not show. It was as if I was telling her the dog needs to go to the groomer...
My theory is she does not want to appear weak and needy to me. She wants to show absolute confidence and resolve when in fact she is scared and lonely, racked with guilt. Next step is to wake her up when she is sleepwalking... kind of "catch her in the act." Then repeat my offer of love and support.
This was a step forward for me. It's been a while since I offered my emotional support to her. I am glad I did it. What I did not hear was, "Our marriage is over" or "You are the wrong person to help me" or (worst) "you are not able to help me" or something else bad like that. I am not going to read into this... If anything, it steels my resolve to continue to DB.
