sheer length of the sexless marriage he's put up with. Couple that with an affair and that's pretty much a given.
Well, not quite a given, considering that sounds like my M in a nutshell and here we still are. But the A is long over with, the SSM came before and continues after. ::groan:: But there's always more to the picture with an SSM than just no S. As ya'll know. Anyway. Not to hijack, just saw that quote and felt compelled to comment.
Choc, I've spent quite some time online of late catching up with you. I was out of state for several weeks - my mom died suddenly and unexpectedly, and let me tell you that completely hits the Reset button on your world, and what you previously thought was The Biggest Problem In Your Life. I'm just sayin'
A: I support you choc, I've thought you really (with NOPs help) took the bull by the horns and faced many things head on. I have admired your 180s since the 1st night your wife came home late from her night out with co-workers.
B: I agree with much of what Cobra stands for :::BI ducking and running::: -perhaps not directly associated with choc's situation, but for my own and how tempting it has been to separate (we've talked that talk before) and hope for "better" outside of this M, vs. the hard, f*cking WORK of staying in the M with no guarantees of 'happy ever after', butting heads about what's important to each of us (and our inadequacies in meeting those needs easily), and slogging through it.
Sorry, ya'll. I've not posted on my own blog in ages and apparently my brain is going through pontificating withdrawl. All this to say, I see both sides of this fence. Carry on.
Forget the former things; do not dwell on the past. See, I am doing a new thing! Is 43:18-19
If it seems slow in coming, wait. It's on its way. It will come right on time. Hab 2:3
