Upgrading the Crazy Eddie Drive

[Crazy Eddie]

Your logic is impeccable. Thanks for the advice. Yes, I have the most fun when I'm playing fair. Also good advice for S6 (if he'll listen to it), who I have a hard time playing with because he keeps making up and changing rules as he goes along, incorporates the plot of cartoons I have no interest in watching, and doesn't speak very clearly. Oh, and like the other two, he would much rather play with me than his siblings. (Arrgh! We had three kids for a reason!)

Anyway, I can see that you ended up having a lot more fun and happiness when you discovered this for yourself.

She was upset again, and scowled at me when I talked to her. I teased her a bit by scowling back, then just did my own thing. By the end of the night, she was back to her old affectionate self and told me of something she was frustrated with all day(completely unrelated to yours truly. Imagine that... things other than me get her angry, and it's not my job to calm her down!) and I talked to her a bit about it and helped her feel better (now that she was willing to feel better). Life is good.

And I found an investigator with good recommendations for about $400... much better than the $1200-$3500 I was quoted from other investigators. She still thinks it's a bad idea, but I've told her that I'm doing it anyway within the next few weeks, and she isn't flipping out or showing contempt for me. She just keeps repeating the possible downsides while I keep repeating the reasons why that risk is acceptable and the enterprise is worth it to me even if the worst case comes true.

She doesn't have to completely understand, sympathize with, or agree with this in order to be a good wife or to love me properly. She can and does love and respect me completely while still not understanding or agreeing with this decision. (Now if she demands that I cease or minimize contact with the people I find for any reason that I don't consider a good reason, we will have a conflict. If she is merely unenthusiastic about my relationship with them, I can openly proceed in the face of that without the need for conflict. And no sense worrying about it until it happens. Planning is good, worrying is not.)