Unfortunately though H doesn't think he needs counselling anymore.

???

I would make sure to bring this up in counseling. The odd thing is that BOTH of you need this counseling. Obviously your H has a specific issue with the M/W thing but I think you understand that other relationship issues might be your issues.

I think the hardest part with counseling for many people is that they feel it is a judgment of who they are at the core. That somehow if you need counseling it is a judgment about you. Instead I think counseling is more about recognizing specifics issues that are problematic for you (and those closest to you!) and dealing with them.

Specifically with him, has he acknowledged that he has been emotionally unavailable to you? Has he acknowledged that he needs to be? And has he figured out how to be??? I would think he would WANT help with that???

Since he will still go to counseling you are in great shape!!!


Last edited by fearless; 07/27/07 01:46 PM.


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