[/quote]1. Even before you found about about the casino, it's clear that she was having an affair. You gave us the classic clues. She was lying to you.
IT may be clear in our heads, BUT, There is no proof so you need to act AS IF(Divorce Remeady).
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2. Yes, she wanted to be married. But, dude, she'd probably do the same things if she was married to you. If she's so relgious, she wouldn't be sleeping with you. So her commitment to "traditional" values is rather thin: pre-marital sex is OK, why wouldn't extra-marital sex be OK? It seem she has no problems consistently violating her "ethical" scruples.
Sorry, but we can not assume that our partners would do anything as we are not them. I don't feel that anyone should assume someone else is doing or going to so or say something unless there is proof. Unless there is you ACT AS IF.
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3. If you still really want to save this relationship -- read the book, Divorce Remedy. It'll help stop all the mistakes you are making
You should read it. It has wonderful info and could help you with this R, or another R down the road.
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5. By the way. You aren't married to her. You made no promises to her; she made no promises to you. Yes, it hurts, but she did nothing "unethical" in cheating on you, unless you both implicitly promised exclusivity. But, then, you took no vows or solemn oaths. Think about it.
DITTO.
JAK
You don't get to choose how you're going to die. Or when, you can only decide how you're going to live now. ~Joan Baez
