Very simple reason, they mean a heck of a lot more when we DON"T have to ask... Sure we can ask for things from our spouse, but the immediately devalues what we ask them to do for us. When they meet our needs before we ask, that is worth FAR more.
Total Bullsh@t. I think that people that value not having to ask for things are living in LaLa land. You know what? If you took a little more time and took care of your own needs, you wouldn't need some mind reader hanging around trying to figure out what Cemar wants at this exact second!
Oh also another theory of mine about people that like to have their minds read. The mind readers are usually internally unhappy and looking for others to make them happy. Mind reading is a convenient excuse for never being happy with your partner. You never say what you want out loud so your partner pretty much has no chance of ever hitting the mark perfectly so it is always THEIR fault you are unhappy.
In your example (I haven't seen the movie but I have heard about it), maybe jennifer's character is just uncertain about how vince feels for her and how she feels for him. In that case if Jennifer had directly asked Vince to clean up the apartment then she got home and it was clean, how would she react? She might still be unhappy BECAUSE OF INTERNAL ISSUES so better not to ask him to clean the apartment to leave the possibility that she might be happy if HE just does what she needs him to.
But what is happiness except the simple harmony between a man and the life he leads? ~Albert Camus
