Wow this is all happening so fast for you! Most of us have been going through this stuff for months, some years. BD is right that patience is so important. Unfortunately, your wife seems to be really rushing into this. I wonder if there are any ways you can think of to put on the breaks a bit without seeming like you are dragging your heels?
How about telling her that you feel very strongly that you need some guidelines to deal with one another as parents before you proceed with the legal aspects of your D. Ask her to attend a few couples counseling sessions with you. See if you can buy some time that way. Also, have you asked her to consider a separation first? It just seems like this is happening so fast. I hope you can find a way to slow it down enough to give her time to be certain it is what she really wants.
...still hanging in there!
M - 40 H - 45 (Big Time MLC - Currently House Hopping) S - 11 (w/ Asperger's Syndrome Autism) D - 5 (w/ Type 1 Diabetes) 1 Dog and 2 Cats Married 10/92, Bomb 10/06, H moved out Mother's Day 07 (Sweet huh?)
