breathe easier. At least you see the mistakes almost right after you make them. Why on earth are you STILL telling him you want the M to work? He isn't asking you really. He is NOT....and even if he were asking, the true answer is you do not know anymore. Has it once Helped you to repeat how you are still "working on the M" when he denies there is a M? If anything, it seems to be worsening his behavior. Take that feedback as a big hint. Drop the matter and let him see the truth that treating you this way HAS changed your feelings....of Course it has!
Just relax about the questions for health care and for God's sake, why can't you let your L work ALL that factual/legal/financial stuff out? That is why you hire and pay them/us. Don't worry about it. Let the L do their jobs and it distances you from most of what will infuriate him later when you actually don't accept every request he makes or you dare to "expect" your fair share, etc.
As for the "celebration" he will have when the D becomes final IF it does....don't count on that. Do NOT count on that. it'll be the start of OW's big pressure to make her "an honest woman"...he'll feel that pressure and the need to be "right" will be peaking if he is attacked. LET HIM GO so he can come back....or if that fails to get him back, it won't be due to your chasing him.
He has failed at least as much as you have in the M and he KNOWS this and will MAYBE be relieved, but also guilt ridden and sad even if he believes he "had " to do it. the kinder, calmer more serene woman you become, the harder it'll be to stay convinced of that position. hang in there. j-
M: 57 H: 60 M: 35 yrs S30,D28,D19 H off to Alaska 2006 Recon 7/07- 8/08 *2016* X = "ALASKA 2.0" GROUND HOG DAY I File D 10/16 OW DIV 2/26/2018 X marries OW 5/2016
