i am seeing even through your perspective that w is reaching out, she is trying to get your attention. i guess i'm lost, you intentions are one thing, you throw them out here on the posts, but your actions with her are another matter.
i'm not going with nomo and heimlich, love you guys, but i'm seeing something diffrent. it appears in my little head that you want what you had. no one hear can have what they had, that is what got them here to being with. we all take a part in the failure of our marriage, god knows i did mine. but i think your reaching for the past, i know you love her and want her home. if things could just be the way they were, but they aren't. show her your want. for this one time let go, forget about the hurt that will be caused to you, because it will hurt but you will live. throw yourself into it, don't worry about the consequences. you will always pull through.
this is just my two cents, i think your great, but i think you want to punish her for the trespass. if you can make things work, by letting go for now, over time she will punish herself over her decision and you will and should be enough. show her your love.
