Walking in a minefield

[Nomopo]

Hello WC. I always hesitate to post on your thread for fear of pissing you off, but I think you have indicated that you are still open to hearing my thoughts. So, until I hear (or am reminded) otherwise, here it goes:

You and I know that if she cared about him (or herself) in the least, she wouldn't be doing any of this, but I digress.

Do you honestly believe she doesn't care for him in the least? Part of me says you kind of do believe this. And if that is true, (1) that part of you is almost certainly wrong, but (2) more importantly, it can't help but influence how you act towards/about her, which (a) will hinder your efforts to save your M/R and your family and (2) eventually will bleed through to your son and how he views his mother, and probably you, and will almost certainly cause him harm.

I am so glad I am not W. If I was, I probably would not see the dawn. Unfortunately, I seriously doubt she's gonna let us off that easy.

I'm gonna assume you are venting, but to the extent this accurately refelcts actual thoughts/feelings, the same comments/concerns (and more) apply. If all of this (and the other quote above), are just you blowing off steam, fine. But you should really ask yourself if you feel this way and assess what that means for you, your goals and your S.

MIL is bringing S over tomorrow (first time in a month), and will be picking him up on Monday. Remember, FIL cheated on MIL with MIL's sister, divorced her, lied to the court and blackmailed her brother to obtain custody, and physically abused her on a number of a occasions. I wonder how she justifies her enabling actions in all of this to herself?

She probably justifies it as being loyal to and caring for her D.

FWIW,
Nomo