You forgot one option, someone giving you pleasure without asking at all. My wife and I watched that movie with Vince Vaughn and Jennifer Anniston. In that movie there is a scene where she comes home and the apartment is a mess. She is VERY disappointed and upset with him. He asks why? SHe replies that the apartment is a mess. His reply is "You don't have to get mad, all you had to do is ask". Her reply, "But I wanted you to care enough to do it without me asking".
Right then and there, I am thinking, here is the female equivalent of the same problem us HD guys have. Both sexes in marriage do this, we want things from our spouse without having to ask for them. Very simple reason, they mean a heck of a lot more when we DON"T have to ask. This is why desire is SOO important. Sure we can ask for things from our spouse, but the immediately devalues what we ask them to do for us. When they meet our needs before we ask, that is worth FAR more.
