Well the tables turned today. I was thinking of making the last post on here my last note because I appreciated all of the advice but I was doing the wrong things anyway. I've never been in this situation and I guess they were mistakes I had to make.

Anyway, an update. I kept the phone on until 11am. She calls in. "I know you are looking for your money. I might be able to pay some this week. I am getting back into town probably tomorrow."

This a day or so later after I told her the biggest strain she was putting on our friendship and relationship was these Thursday and Friday's and to please give it a rest for me.

So I told her she should goto the cellphone place and get the number transferred over to her account. She told me she was just going to goto the store and tell them to disconnect it. She said something else that REALLY got on my nerves. I can't remember what it was. And I told her I just didn't want to talk to her anymore and that was it. I called the phone company to disconnect her line.

I started getting calls from some people we know and her relatives to my cellphone an hour later. "Hey, Where is Jennifer?", or "Is Jennifer around you?"

I explained to them that she wanted a break from our relationship and said she was interested in persuing another guy and I really wasn't sure if she was with her relative or where she was.

Every single person - even her relatives - told me that I did the right thing by turning off the phone and saying I no longer wished to speak with her, they told me that they knew some things I didn't and they hated what she was doing to me, etc. I was surprised at all of her relatives supporting me. She had been bringing this guy around to meet some family members. There is a family reunion of hers coming up which at first she told me she was only going to go one of the two days, and then she told me she decided not to go to. Well, that was partially true, like a lot of things she tells me, but it turns out she tried to get them to let her take this new guy on one day of the reunion (Sat), and take me the other day (Sun) and only pay for one extra person instead of two. I also found out that one of the Thursday nights last month was her spending the night at the casino/hotel with one of those free night coupons. That's what we used to do but we stopped a couple months ago.

Bottom line: I wouldn't have known any of this had I not turned off the cellphone. Sometimes you just feel better knowing the truth. There is no way that she would've done all of that without sleeping with the guy, so I no longer believe what she tells me, and it makes me a lot happier to be rid of her.

She has called today from her relatives house since her phone was disconnected and I didn't answer. Now I will do as you all suggested and give a "whatever" less-caring non-persuing attitude for the remainder of us knowing each other. Because now that I know what I suspected was true, I don't even want to be with her.

We have some financial things to resolve. She owes me some money, and payments for a laptop, and 1/2 of a trip we took two months ago to Vegas where I paid all expenses. Tomorrow should be interesting.