What I mean is obvious is HER contribution to the problem. My part of the problem could be ANYTHING. Her part of the problem is one and ONLY one thing, her desire for sex. But the LD women deep down KNOW this. Read the MLC boards, they KNOW this, they just don't want to ADMIT it. That is what is obvious.
What is the solution? I have no freaking clue. I have asked on here before, aparently most people don't know. But to get to a PM, the return of desire is a REQUIREMENT. Deida even says that us guys should never stay with a women whose desire is lower than our own. The reason why the return of desire is so important is because of what it does OUTSIDE the bedroom, not inside. Almost all of the daily interaction between husband and wife are influenced by desire. Heck, at least half of the things on my list from earlier this week are hard if not impossible for LD people to achieve.
Beyond that, what is the point of a relationship if there is no desire. I certainly would never continue dating a woman if she did not desire me, and is not marriage just an extended form of dating? Love without desire, why would anyone WANT that? Are there any LD ladies that would want a man that has no desire for you? If they don't want it, why should men be any different?
