I'm sure others will chime in as well, but I'll be the first to welcome you. Feel free to rant and rave her, not to your W. Sounds like you've read the books and all, and that's a great start. I guess the biggest thing that we ALL have to remind ourselves of if we want to put the effort in to make our M work is -- PATIENCE. It's going to take more time than you'd like and you're going to have to take more than you'd like from your W, more than likely.
So, that said, couple of questions.
1. "Friendship" with another man. The obvious question, to you suspect an A? If so, don't snoop. Others will say it makes it worse. 2. It's not over until it's over, don't despair. 3. Start focusing on yourself. Be the guy that she fell in love with, but better. Really start thinking about her comment about meeting her emotional needs. To many of us, our S's announcement came out of nowhere, however, what she's feeling is what she's feeling. You have to accept that. Regardless of what your intentions were. 4. Age is nothing but a number, right? She knew the age difference when she got into this.
Hang in there,
BD
My latest
Me: 36 W: 35 2 D: 9 and 5 T: 16 years M: 12 10/4/06: Bomb 10/5/06: Ended A 4/22/07: ILYBNILWY
