Wow, some of what you say sounds the way I feel. No one but your wife can tell you if she is ready for Retrouvaille or counseling. Believe me, I know it sucks, so I am not going to say it is easy. It will probably be the worst pain you will ever feel, going through this. And emotional pain is much worse than physical. I would try not pursuing her. Try and think of something you could do that would seem totally unexpected to her. If you run into her, go slow. Ask how she is doing, the way you would ask anyone else in your circle of friends. Act like she is just an acquaintance. It will seem really weird and goes against what you want to do, but try it. Then just say, "Good seeing you." And leave!!!!! DO NOT turn around . If she wants to talk to you she will call you. Since you have mutual friends she should run into you once in awhile. It seems odd she called you to apologize. Maybe she will call again. Don't be cold, but don't pursue her. Mention some new activity you have taken up-lie about it if you have to (and then start participating the minute the two of you hang up!). Be casual. Mention a book you are reading, or anything alse you can think of. But don't let yourself bring up the topic of your relationship. When you are with your mutual friends, try doing the same thing. Would you rather have it get back to her you are skinny and desperate, or involved in some exciting new ventures? Be upbeat as much as you can. Then go home and let it all out. It really does help.
