The lap dance is a great idea for spicing things up. Nothing wrong with it at all. I just want to emphasize that my suggestion was going in a different direction. Try focusing narrowly on you and YOUR sexual needs. (So, your comment about "you don't have to do that" is off topic in that regard because it is talking about what you are doing to him.)
This is really a big paradigm shift for a lot of women. But, it makes a big difference in your sex life if you sometimes very openly put your sexual satisfaction first and pursue it lustily. There is something very liberating for both parties when the focus is taken of the male's satisfaction at times. Besides, men love to watch. I promise you H will take measures to achieve an O for himself if he is so-moved even when YOU are the focus instead of him.
So, when I say be an animal, I mean be a me-gonna-get-me-some-sexual-satisfaction-a-few-times-over and I want it in x-y-z ways NOW animal.
Surely, there are also times to also be a me-gonna-get-your-freak-on-better-than-anyone-else-ever-has-so-watch-out-while-I-F-your-brains-out animal.
Indeed, I'm sure we could design enough freaky sex animals for a zoo.
My point is just that women are well-versed in putting the focus on man-pleasing during sex. Try being the first kind of animal and see what happens. Even if H turns you down, be clear that you will continue your animal mission and succeed. Then, succeed.
