honestly, its something I tried to do at one point, at least I thought I could do it. I even told him in may that I had it all worked out (yep, pre-db days), that we would live in the same house (him on the couch, all his stuff in the basement) and in sept we would go ahead and use bonus for the divorce. wasn't reality. I realized pretty quickly I couldn't live with him as a roommate. I can't. and something I realized as well, I was just making things easier for him. he has been handed things his whole life. not that his family was rich, he was raised by a single mom and his grandmother, neither had much money, but he never wanted for anything and they worship the ground he walked on. he could do no wrong. he could kick a puppy and they would have said, "oh, what a nice job you did!"
I'm the only person in his life that has ever drawn a line and finally stuck to it. I'm the only one who has made things hard for him. I'm not saying its paying off for me all that well, but I really believe it would have been worse if I hadn't.
make sure you weigh what you can tolerate. agree to those bounderies up front. you might consider a timeline as well.
in the meantime, take care of you, DB, DB, DB. I hope you find that it works for you!
good luck.
M-41 H-38 M-10 years, T-14 years Bomb-PA 3/19/07 Separated-6/7/07 Piecing/h back home 5/08 S-6 S-4 D-4
"Courage doesn't always roar. Sometimes courage is that little voice at the end of the day that says, 'I'll try again tomorrow.'"
