Thanks buddy. Funny thing is that I am happier now than I have been for some time. You are 100% right in regards to being able to forgive the infidelity, but when do the lies stop, if ever. Once you have lost that trust, I don't think you can ever get it back.
Also, I think she is at a stage that she is believing her lies, which would make it even harder for her to change(I think she may be a compulsive liar). She knew when she met me that this was one of the things I valued the most (honesty), I just wonder how many other lies did I fall for during our marriage?
I hope your sitch does get better, AndyV
AndyV M38 W36 D7 M 13 years Together 17 years W wants D mid Dec 06 (ring off) W wants separation early Jan 07 (she backdated to Oct 06) EA revealed end March 07 (Nov 06 W first meeting with OM) Hallmark moment "I care for you but am no longer in love with you."
