Frustrated and Saddened #2

[stewart10]

Hey CVA:

Thanks for the reply.

I think what you described are the boundaries you need to set to (i) keep your self esteem while (ii) working toward the goal of saving your M. Tough balance.

I agree. The tough part is finding the right balance. I have not reached the point where I am ready to give up. I don't think that will come for some time. And I think at least at this point, she realizes that my actions in the past were not about control.

You cant control her so stop worrying about it. Easier said than done as you say but true. Yes, she probably is getting off on having this new found power, but I think it is short lived. Once she figures out that you are there for her but not just to DO stuff for her, it will gradually change to respect and hopefully love again.

That's the ultimate goal. Unfortunately it usually takes a lot longer than most of us want it to. I have made it clear to her that I am here for her, and that she can count on me. Trying to build a foundation for our new R.

It is hard to respect someone who is at your beckon call and certainly hard to love someone you dont respect.

Nice catch 22 we are in, huh?

Agreed. Sucks, but agreed.