"Why have you choosen to stay so long with someone

[Heywyre]

I know where you are coming from GEL - to some degree I think when the ST asked me if I wanted to "rescue" him, he might have seen something I didn't. I don't think I did it consciously, but deep down, that's just the way I am. I think I have the NG syndrome too

I have always been very nurturing - my H says it, my kids say it, my friends say it, so it must be true. I don't really see it as being any different from how people should all be, its "just me". I don't think of it being a sacrifice or being a martyr. I do it because I like doing it, I NEVER begrudge any of what I do for people, I don't keep score, I don't ever expect anything in return. So, is this detrimental? I don't know

I loved my H from almost the first time I met him. Did I want to marry him right off? No, but I did want him to be a part of my life. We developed a real friendship like no other I had ever had. He is truly my best friend. Do I want to sacrifice that?

I see what a wonderful step-father he has been to my two daughters - they ADORE him and would be devastated beyond belief if they knew what he had done to their mother.

Maybe, there was a part of me that wanted to help him fix things. I believe everyone comes into our lives for a reason. The more time we spend together, the more I believe it was meant to be