OK, phonecall out of the way and it was OK. Spoke to D for a couple of minutes and W for a bit of the time.
Mr_Indecisive99, I suppose I am slightly more fortunate than a lot of the people on this site, I can have those conversations with my W, just not the ones about love and caring. W even dropped into a conversation last week that she thought about starting smoking (talk about a reverse 180). I played along and agreed with her, but inside I thought - WTH?!
Nevermind, slightly at ease now - must be the wine. W has a friend coming to visit tomorrow, so know will not be talking to OP. I have work then a weekend away so will correspond all next week when W has her 'time alone' with only the children for company.