There is a way to give space with doting or following H around. That is my challenge at home too. Just be super polite when you are around, try to find humor in things (I always find that humor cant be reciprocated w/ resentment or anger so...) and just PMA. So easy to say, but just think about it. I have said this elsewhere and keep saying it for myself mostly, if you project a Positive Self, dont you want to be around people like that? Shadow of doubt as they say.
What do you think!
CVA
Hi CVA, I guess that's what I've been trying to do, it's so hard though, isn't it? I don't feel like it's impossible to be in the same house or anything like that, in fact, I feel a little sorry for H and that makes me more sympathetic. We still spend time together with the kids, get some laughs watching d1.5's antics, eat dinner together a few nights a week (no different from before the bomb) and put the kids to bed together. After the kids are in bed, I've been trying to give him extra space, but sometimes we watch tv together. I also give him loads of space during the day by not calling or emailing unless there's a real reason. We used to talk several times a day.
He's been sleeping on the couch more often this week. I haven't said anything or started any R talks. He hasn't either. I know this is a minor thing- but now that he's sleeping on the couch more than in our bed, I'm getting bothered by him not using sheets or a bed pillow on the couch. He just lays down with an afgham, using the couch pillows. I want to say something, but I guess it's not really worth it. He must really hate sleeping next to me now- we don't even have shades/blinds in the living room and the sunlight comes streaming in at 5:30am!
