I agree with you -- I'm being very cautious about my coach's advice too. I think the course of action is very dependent upon the individual sitch. In my sitch, it seems to me that less is very likely more. In addition, as Kat reminded me I've already spilled a lot of my heart in terms of what I've come to realize about my roll in the breakdown of the M when I wrote W the letters 3 months ago. It is likely she still remembers all of that, so no need to rehash it.
I'm likely going to go short and sweet with it, but just want the moment to be right and to come across as sincere, but confident and not needy/pursuing. Sounds tough to do from my POV -- any suggestions? Coach said that once I've figured out what I'm going to say and how I'm going to say it, that anytime the opportunity arises between now and D day to seize that moment. Don't set it for a particular day, because a bunch of things could happen on that day to make the opportunity bad or even nonexistent.
The one thing I'm still trying to figure out is this: what is the one reason I can use to convince W why a postponement/recinding of the D would be a good idea? This is in the event that she asks "Why?" I need to have a good reason for why it would benefit her to do so, and I'm still kicking this one around.
Thanks sunny -- I appreciate your feedback!
(any chance at hearing about Anniversary dinner night any time soon?)
