Upgrading the Crazy Eddie Drive

[Crazy Eddie]

So how did I get that loop kicked off in the first place?

Many times since early childhood, I would meet someone, we would start to connect and spend time together, and then that other person would inexplicably (to me) and suddenly grow distant and start cutting off contact. If I tried to inquire into the causes behind it, the other person cut off contact much more quickly and forcefully, and in more than one case other people were brought in as intermediaries to spare her the necessity of talking to me even for the purpose of telling me to go away. If I did nothing, the other person would cut off contact a little more gradually and sometimes with plenty of excuses.

Later I found a few of the reasons behind it and made some improvements. But I never lost that fear that one day, without warning or explanation, someone I cared about would no longer want anything to do with me. As I learned more about what attracts women, I saw more of what had gotten me into trouble, and applied those lessons as best I could, but that fear of rejection and the assumption that it would happen without warning, explanation, or even concrete confirmation led me right into trouble when her energy level dropped severely for several days and took her sex drive with it, and I became fairly certain that her attraction to me was waning. Then I got desperate and made a vicious circle out of it.

So, a few questions for me to find the answers to:

1. Why was Mrs. Eddie attracted to me in the first place?
2. Why was no one other than Mrs. Eddie attracted to me at that time? What's different about her? Or were other women attracted to me and I never noticed it?
3. How are the signs that someone is losing interest in you different from the signs that someone isn't feeling well? Is there really no visible difference and you must know from other clues throughout the relationship whether the other person has a reason to lose patience with you?
4. How do I know whether someone would like me to take the initiative to contact them? How do I know whether I should wait for them to take the initiative to contact me. If we both assume the latter, it could be a long wait.

And a note for future reference: if she's not enthusiastic about spending time with you, find something else to do. Bring the kids if you can, but make sure it's something you enjoy, so you'll get a recharge from it and renew your energy and confidence. Go to the gym if nothing else comes to mind.

Oh yeah, and we should both acquire a circle of friends and get better at maintaining it. I can offer her encouragement and help, but she has to take the initiative overall for her circle of friends.