You cant control her so stop worrying about it. Easier said than done as you say but true. Yes, she probably is getting off on having this new found power, but I think it is short lived.
Nice catch 22 we are in, huh?
Yes I agree that the newfound power and control the WAS has over the LBS is intoxicating to them. They feel that we will just bow down and submit to their every whim. Pick your fights. Some you will win and some you won't. The reward is that power they have over you will diminish gradually until it evens out to a mutual respect for each other.
Me: 40 W: 39 D12 D9 D6 ILYBNILWY: 06/15/07 "We can work things out": 06/21/07 Currently: Still together, DB'ing every day