I have been letting H take the kids for the weekends w/ him & OW,but a freind has put a doubt on my mind. She says I should stop making it easy for his affair lifestyle & tell him to make this legal if he wants to continue taking them. We r physically seperated but not LEGALLY so. It does hurt me when he takes them & plays family w/ OW,but then I feel gulty b/c he is still paying the house and the utilites. I know I dont HAVE to let him take them legally right now so now I dont know if I am doing right. The girls know its wrong for daddy to live w/ OW. So I feel like I am contradicting myself infront of them.
I think the only reason he told the girls he wants to come back is b/c he misses them. He is still driving around w/ his clothes in his trunk??? Maybe they have been fighting?
So I emailed him today & told him to just make our D agreemnet into a legal sep right now & file. I told him how he needed to notify his car ins of his new address and then I can change the locks & not have to be threaten of the electric again b/c it would be changed to my name. He said not happening he was not changing anything until after the D no need to get a legag seperation now.
Does anyone here not have a legal sep & also taking turns w/ the kids?
