It is so important that you communicate your feelings to your wife, but maybe if that is too hard, meeting with a therapist who is pro marriage could help you to word things properly.
As a Woman, I am also exrememly sensitive about my weight and would only want someone who had my best interests at heart to confront me on it.
My Husband threw me into a major depression because of my weight. He told me that I was a big fat ugly slob. He told me that I made him physically ill because of how I had let myself go.
I ended up seeing a therapist and going on Anti Depressants, which only made me gain more weight.
The sad part of it, looking back, was that I was about 30 pounds over weight, after being pregnant for 6 continuous years. I also had no clue as to what MLC was and no idea that people in MLC become ugly with their words.
The irony in all of this is that my Husband is now about 30 pounds overweight, and I don't say a word about it or treat him the way he treated me.
And I am happy to say that I have maintained the 40 pounds I have lost and wear a size 2 proudly.
There can be no testimony without a test. I am praying to go through this test and come out the other end with a new and better marriage then before.
