WAW1978's adventures in DB'ing

[Not Much Left]

WAW
I think I speak for all of us LBH's that sure it hurts, but in some sense none of us would be here if it didnt. In a perfect world you sit down and discuss issues. When 2 people are hurting each other and either one of them feels so hurt they cannot discuss things because they are afraid of the response, whala! you get WAW or WAH!

So in you case, it seems to me you should just try and remain calm and "discuss" what the issues are. I would say just matter of factly, no emotion if you can do it, that (i) you want the M to work (ii) no you have not had an A (iii) I (that's you) need to work on things individually as does H and that that is the only way the M will work.

Items (i) and (ii) show a committment which should ease fears / anxiety on his side (yes, you are helping him!) and item (iii) says, BUT, if you dont work on you and admit you need help too, it wont happen.

Anyone else? That's pretty simple but hopefully to the pt.

CVA