Kicking him off the fence

[Heartbroken]

Lovely Olive,

I agree with OC - my H's OW finally pushed too hard (he will not tell me exactly what happened - says he's not ready yet) but I was also pulling away. It was a combination of the two that drove him to make the end decision.

H was so far in the hole he did not know how to get out. He asked me how do I come back to you?? I said I was no longer a sure thing and that he needed to maybe take a risk for us and to put his neck out on the line to REALLY try to re-commit to us and work on us FOR REAL (as long as there is a 3rd person there is little REAL reconnecting going on). H said that if in our re-trying that I found out I could not truly reconnect with him at least he could now say that he had tried to fix the R.

Hang in there LO you are an awesome lady!!

HB