Still Seperated and Hopeful

[Heartbroken]

Good to hear from you - I was worried!!

Watch the amount of pursuing while she is gone - let her initiate the contact. But then I should talk-- I lasted 5 days before I just called H when the kids and I were down at Hilton Head...I tend to go with my heart (sometimes too much). H said later that he was not feeling needed and he realized he missed us and missed wanting to be needed by me and the kids...

I kind of think if you continue to build your R with her at this stage (and even though you feel there has been little R developemnt your wrong - you two sound like you are dating and becoming FRIENDS again...) maybe then piecing will not be so difficult. I am still having some periods of sadness and I still fear H hurting me again - just taking it day by day. H feels I am punishing him when I want to talk about my hurting - but I think I got him to finally understand that I am just trying to address my fears - not hurt him!!

Baby steps- MC that's all you can do at this point - no controlling the timeline!!

H and I are off to Chicago for two days until the kids arrive Saturday night! Have a great weekend!

HB