BTW this was a problem with some LDHs of HDW posting on this forum. The H wanted a cleaner house before sex.
I tend to think that this is just one of the convenient places for anyone to place anxiety. My 2bx would frequently vacuum the bedroom before initiating sex. I'm quite surprised that I haven't developed a Pavlovian reaction to the sound. Maybe a LD person would really be feeling anxiety about the laundry not being done and that is what would block their desire but maybe the anxiety experienced in anticipation of sex would just be readily assigned to the laundry. After we split, my 2bx made it clear in one convo that he didn't find my tendency to perform AOS in pursuit of sex very arousing - lol . I think speaking somebody's LL makes them feel loved so clearly you should try to do it in a relationship but making someone feel loved doesn't necessarily make them feel more sexual. My triple layer lasagne and shiny bathroom faucets will not be featured in any upcoming amateur porn movies.
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