How many of us would absolutely melt if our wives were visibly impressed with something we had done well? How many of us would be deeply hurt if our wives didn't notice or care about something we had gone to a lot of effort to do well? How many of us would find it hard to be close to our wives if they saw our greatest skills, strengths, and achievements as irrelevant, not worth noticing, useless, a waste of time, and so on. How would we feel if they pointed to our greatest achievement and said "who cares? You should have been doing XYZ instead, you lazy good-for-nothing!"?
This woman was nine years old when she was left to her own devices, refused to be a helpless, useless baby in the midst of it, and stepped up and took care of business, and acquired a high level of skill, patience, and strength that she takes pride and pleasure in using and showing off to this day. And now she lives with a man who flat out doesn't care about any of it, isn't interested in her skills, her struggle, or her achievements. After four years on this board, he finally mentions her struggle and her challenge, and speaks of her with pity about her effort and her achievement at a time when most people her age were still helpless, messy, irresponsible, petulant, lazy, useless babies.
Originally Posted By: cemar2
And exactly how does speaking WOA to a 47 year old women in menopause give here a sex drive? That seems like a pretty huge leap of faith.
It'll give her the idea that you give a damn about her, who she is, and what she's capable of.
Last edited by Crazy Eddie; 07/26/0706:21 PM.
a fine and enviable madness, this delusion that all questions have answers, and nothing is beyond the reach of a strong left arm.
