"Why have you choosen to stay so long with someone

[Heywyre]

Ok Lou, so life isn't perfect and you didn't get what you bargained for - what's the solution?

You can either wallow in your self pity for the rest of your life (not saying that you are) OR you can make the best of it and live life to the fullest - because you obviously don't want to D BB for a number of reasons.

Personally, I adore my dogs, but I don't think I would go to the extreme that BB is going to - web cameras in the kennels?? pleeeeeezzzzz. Eventually dogs die (sorry, but that's life, or lack thereof) what is she going to do then? I would hope you won't agree to her getting more of the little suckers. What is it about animals that she throws her whole being into them? Is it an escape because the children are now gone. Some people just replace children that leave the nest with animals - avoiding the real problems that are still there (their M)

We have two VERY LARGE dogs and, like I said, we both adore them BUT there is a limit and we have talked about when they are "gone" and whether or not to get another one/two. H is already planning on it but I am trying to discourage him from thinking about it right now. I would like at least some time (a year or two minimum) to think about the impact it will have on our lives. After all, when you get a dog, you can expect at least 10 years of your life to be tied up (much more if they are smaller dogs) - not to mention the expense.