Aud, I was going to post on your previous post but alas when I just about concluded I hit the wrong key and it all vanished. I left it at that. Somehow I just wanted to kind of "gurgle" something just because I come from 2 different angles, simultaneously.
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agree that he's unrealistic in expecting me to trust him. When we reconciled in April, he said he understood that it will take a long time for me to trust him, but I don't think he's connected the reality of what that really means. I'm just now understanding that these "little" things ARE the trust issues.
Aud, I am not sure he is EXPECTING you to trust him. At least I certainly hope not. What I think he is implying is shooting him down before he has even taken off the ground. I think being realistic is good but being cynical has a tendency to backfire. I totally understand what you are saying and you have every right to have a raised eyebrow with each word said BUT if you can spend just as much time with the leaps he has made as you do with his stumbles it might make you feel a little more surefooted.
You had in your previous post that started this discussion that you are a person of orderly measures and proper planning. The only thing you can control is yourself and how you react.(not an other persons actions or how they will react). I only wished that my life worked on my plan but strangely the things that i havent planned become the precious gift that I never could have imagined...(even though the pain and suffering) was difficult to bear at the time. Life is wired to have garbage trucks move freely in your life without a moments notice, even when you have a schedule on when they will hit, you never know the measure of impact
You have faith Aud and an immense amount of it...I have come to realize that it doesnt matter if it is blind faith or resolute...faith is a flower that will bloom with the nourishment of you...and for years to come...
You are an incredible person and I really admire how you have taken accountability and shifted you sitch from drama to problem resolution...all I ask is give your husband the chance to succeed, if he fails...know full well it is his failure not yours now... I am going to take my hobbled, congested self out of here and hope you dont take any of this as arrogant or ranting...just throwing a perspective out there...peace
