You know I worry about that as well, but not that much. I've always been this firm believer of the soul mate thing. But after reading diffrent books about the evolution of a relationship, I don't buy the I was never in love with you statement, and I have heard it. You don't make a child with someone, and live the life you do for a decade because your confused. It's a defense mechanism, they tell themselves they don't love us, because then it makes their decision easier.
Feelings always follow experiances. I was reading someone success story last night and noticed something. WAW was gone, moved in with OM, but LBH was home DB'ing. Always upbeat, always there. Well OM couldn't take it, became resentfull, defensive and asked too many questions. W analyzed her sitch and realized the H is kind, nice and I do love him, she went home. OM asked what he had done wrong? Everything! Feelings follow experiances.
