OM, MLC and the hits keep coming........

[andyv]

Hello everyone,

I hope things are going well in your respective sitches, mine seems to have taken a turn for the worse, but it is pretty much going the way I expected.

I spent two weeks in Perth for work, and in those two weeks I had pretty much made up my mind to seek closure in my R, and thought about the positives of actually moving on.

I thought about all the lies and deceit, and regardless of my intentions to keep my family together, I don't think that would be in the best interest of myself or my daughter. I don't think I could ever trust my W again, regardless of what happens in the future (also I think she is too involved with OM, and the thought of her leaving me for him would be something I could not live with if she ever came back).

The straw that finally broke the camels back was the consent orders she handed me the night I came back from Perth. After our initial agreement of 50/50 property and 50/50 shared custody, she reneged and wanted 60/40 property and primary custody of my DD.

She told me that she was entitled to 70/30 if she wanted, but thought 60/40 would be fair. She told me that the court had rejected 50/50.

I went to my solicitor, specialising in family law, and was amazed at his findings. After going through our finances before and after marriage, he had worked out a "conservative" total of 57/43 in my favour for property and 50/50 custody. He also said that the forms my W had handed me were not prepared by a solicitor (possibly a friend who may work in the legal profession). Also that she had lied about the court rejecting the initial consent order of 50/50.

He told me that I could go for more, but the 57/43 was a bottom percentage (for me). Also with 50/50 custody (and due to her working full time and getting paid the same as me) she would be entitled to no child support. If she wanted primary and sole custody it would only work out at $143 a week.

I was happy to honour our initial agreement. It is amazing that she has lied so much over the last 10 months, and after coming to a civil agreement with our divorce, and asking her to just be honest with me from now on, she continues to lie.

Sorry for the long winded post, but I just had to get it out of my system.

It's funny, I never really believed in Karma, but I sure do now. I have not discussed my meeting with my solicitor, or my findings with W yet. I will have to play my cards close to my chest for now.

I am feeling better today, and the above information has really lifted my spirits.

I hope everyone is having a better time in their sitches and it is going to plan for them. Sometimes you have to let things go for the better of the family, and in my sitch it feels like the right thing to do.

Kindest regards to everyone,
Andyv