Response to Cemar2

[fearless]

She fills her schedule with an incredible number of things, loves to be very busy. Then she tells me ALL of the things that she has done during the day, almost fishing for compliments. She seems to think that she is doing this for US. So she just expended all of her energy for the day doing things that really don't matter to me, they matter to HER. And then she expects me to appreciate all she has done. I don't freaking CARE if the house is clean, or if the bathrooms are clean, DOMESTIC life when my life is devoid of physical intimacy. It's like "See how much I did today, aren't I a good wife". She is focusing all of her efforts on the WRONG stuff, and actually exhausting herself doing it. Why do women DO THIS! Who is telling women that this is the IMPORTANT stuff in marriage? I swear she does this to impress OTHER WOMEN, it certainly is not for me.


Interesting comments and I completely understand your point and your frustration. However what you just wrote again seems to answer my question with YES. What you seem to MEAN is that you are so resentful about not getting what you want from her that you cannot appreciate anything else she does. True?

I can understand your points that the HD person may have caused the LD. But the LD is still determines if the marriage succeeds.

So if the HD person caused the LDness in their spouse, the LD still determines if the marriage succeeds??? The marriage is already in trouble and the lack of sex is merely a symptom of the main issue. Again an extreme example but if a husband starts hitting his wife and then she stops wanting to have sex with him are you REALLY saying it is her fault for not wanting to have sex with him and it's her fault if the marriage ends???

Please please don't take this as blaming the HD spouse. This is about acknowledging that BOTH spouses contribute to the state of the marriage which then contributes to physical intimacy.