well good night all, i love her, i have to tell someone. she is a princess and i cried after she left. not for myself, the selfpity is leaving, but for her. she is so confused and hurt and i'm such a big part of that. seems like her whole world is coming down on her at once, all i want to do is help.
Atlas, I know how you feel. I feel the same way. I think what we have is called true love or unconditional love. I am always trying to help my W. I know she is confused and hurting. I am a fixer...so I try to fix things that are broken. This is one thing that I can't fix and it drives me crazy. I guess all that I care about is that she is happy.
The whole break down of love and being in love and attraction just drives me crazy trying to figure it out.
Your W was a product of divorce and she said it ruined her and now the only way not to hurt you or her son is to file for divorce. Doesn't make sense.
My W says strange contradictory stuff also. She said if she could change her feelings she would but how do you do that. I think it takes time. We have to give them time and space to explore and to really collect and examine their feelings and I think ultimately they will work these things out in their head.
Will we still be there is the question? I have sort of disconnected and accepted the sitch also. It is a big step but I think it is one that has to be taken for us to really move on and improve ourselves.
