IMHO your 2bx used such ridiculous statements to establish and maintain a kind of power/dominance in the R.
Well, after we split he came right out and said that he thought he said things like that in order to bring me down to his lower level he thought he inhabited due to poor self-esteem.
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For you, emotionally, should you every marry? Does it serve a purpose for you? I don't think you can know that until the question presents itself.
Well, I would say that people consciously or unconsciously make choices that lead in one direction or another. Probably the reason I am thinking about this issue now is I was wondering why I care whether I can designate the man I am currently having sex with as my "boyfriend"? Is it a desire for a "higher" level of psychological validation, as Heather suggested or maybe simply the natural fallout of the fact that I am trying to play by the rules of serial monogamy for a variety of cultural reasons or is there some root level biological drive towards pair-bonding within me? If I had the gonads to be honest with my partners, I would be tempted to give polygamy and/or polyamory a whirl at this point in my life, perhaps just to satisfy my curiosity about why it doesn't work.
"Tell me, what is it you plan to do with your one wild and precious life?" - Mary Oliver
