As I am sure many of you have seen, I have witnessed many people spend YEARS AND YEARS of their lives trying to reconcile a marriage...to no avail. This is a terribly personal decision for each and every one of us. I don't blame anyone for doing what Choc is doing...in fact, I would hope I would have the ability to know that my life is much too precious to waste on someone who does not want me or want to be intimate with me. Please don't condeme someone for moving ahead...seeing the way he needs to live his own life and to protect his children. If a person wants to spend their time, perhaps years, working it out, then that is honorable for them. But for others...they have every right to decide for themselves what is best...and to be honest, I would have to do it to keep my sanity. I would be an emotional and physical wreck living like this. I respect anyone for giving it their all, not matter now long it might take...and I also respect someone who just cannot take anymore and stands up for themselves, chosing to move forward with their life. I had a boyfriend who left me to go back to his ex-wife...she begged for another chance after having affairs, kicking him to the curb more than once...and he was just an emotional basketcase because of all of it. And yes, he loved her very much...but within a year, she did it again and guess what...now he is alone and worse off than before. Yes, that was his choice and his alone. That is the road HE chose to take...and Choc has that choice to make. He has that right...and it is the right choice for him, not anyone else. His wife made her choice too...
