At times I find myself reacting to the old H, at times I have to force myself to rememeber he's changed. I must say it does take a long time of consistent change to convince someone you have changed. I remember early on in my sitch I got discouraged cos H didn't accept I'd changed. Now I realise it's taken me most of this year to accept H has changed. Patience ... slow and steady wins.
Ohhhhhh.....do I get THIS. H *does* slip, but don't we all when we're learning a new habit or behavior? Didn't WE do that ourselves in this process? Yet...I still look for those slips and have been focusing on the slips rather than all the wonderful things H does differently 90% of the time.
Thanks, Jen, for posting this. EXACTLY what I needed to see this morning!
And be patient with yourself regarding H...like you want him to be with you as you occasionally slip...
SD
Me: 40 H: 43 H had EA from 2/06-9/06 Bomb 5/06 Piecing since 9/2006 3/2008: Boundary setting 7/2009: Boundary crossing~dropped my own bomb. 8/2010: Marriage finally on track!
