First, I think it is sooo cool that you and Corri met. Glad you enjoyed yourselves. I've often imagined a SSM "girls weekend" - that would be soo interesting.
OTOH - I was thinking of your example of what comment to 2bx's comments would show a lack of fusion. I get concerned sometimes that in trying to "de-fuse" we actually get into a "tit for tat" mindset. So....if ex-H says, "you are too fat to fcuk" and you say, "well, you are too uptight to fcuk" then it doesn't display a lack of fusion necessarily. IMHO your 2bx used such ridiculous statements to establish and maintain a kind of power/dominance in the R.
"Marriage" can be viewed from 2 very different perspectives. For legal purposes it is basically a business/economic agreement. For religious purposes it serves another function. Both institutions were supposed to help create a "stable" family unit to keep the chaos of society to a bare minimum - this is true in polygamous cultures as well. However, "marriage" is structured it is supposed to create an economic, child-bearing and care-taking unit that is stable over time. Now it seems that this still exists but because of the limits of human beings in the present culture it seems to be of a "serial" nature for 50% of the folks but still serves the same purpose.
For you, emotionally, should you every marry? Does it serve a purpose for you? I don't think you can know that until the question presents itself. I do agree wholeheartedly that many times R's go waaaaaaaaayyyyyy beyond anythign beneficial for either party.
