Its always hard to think that you’ve given everything you can to the marriage, and things still get worse, and then receive no validation of that effort, only to hear that there was even more that you could have done. I know the feeling. My wife throws that at me too, that she has given and given so I should not expect her to give any more. But from my perspective, she is so entrenched in her POV at times, that any movement off center will feel like a huge concession to her, while I see it as only the beginning of a much bigger change needed. So am I wrong to expect more or is she misguided in her perceptions of where she is and where she needs to be?
I know you have given a lot to your marriage, with minimal response from your wife, so I understand how my comments may seem callous to you. You might be right about me, but I might also be seeing something from a perspective you don’t see. Who knows?
Oh, and I do fully understand the consequences of divorce and how hard that decision is. I went down that road, remember?
