I thought I would be so open and caring and invite H back to live in the house since he was kicked out of sisters place. What have I done? Last night he wanted to talk about boundaries saying basically he wants to do what he wants (see OW) without any pressure from me. Lots of conversation last night and he said he only has two people to rely on now -- me and the OW. He doesn’t want to give up either right now yet can not say if we are over 100% just he has strong feelings for her. Needs to be able to see her as she is his escape and coping mechanism. Also wants to be with the family and have me in his life (not as a wife). It is all so horrible and now I have to figure out how to watch him go out at night knowing where he is going. How do I handle all this without losing my mind? I want him in the house as we are communicating better than ever and he is starting to say things like "Maybe someday we would be together again" "Can't make any major decisions about us right now cause he doesn't know". This is positive cause before the last few days he would say we have no chance. How do I do this with keeping my health and my DD interests first?
