sorry that h is being so unreasonable. too bad about the house issue, he just doesn't seem to get it. my view for what it is worth, is that he thinks by being stern he is going to fix this marriage. from the house bit, the bathroom, the d, sounds like he is a control freak. can't say how he will react to you not being so nice, but it sounds like he isn't in reality and maybe a pull back will get him thinking.
i can't say about your daughter, but he can't keep her from you. maybe you could see an attorney and file for a seperation. not sure if you have done that or not.
