would like some advice 2

[Dr LOve]

Lt,
we can not change the past. It is history. We can't pretend it didn't happen because if we do we have not learned from it and are bound to repeat it.
I know it's been said over and over but here it is agian. we need to take care of ourselves. If you want your wife to see the "new you" You do need to detach. I have a hard time with this also but what happens is sometimes we LET outside forces control our inner feelings which makes us react.
Like I said this ain't easy. an example would be if you walked in on your wife and she is text messaging.(the outside force)you could "LET" it make you mad(inner feeling) and slam the door and walk away(reaction). this reaction shows that you have not changed. It also plays on your mind and you feel like sh@t the rest of the day.
This is as far as I have gotten in my book. I see how we let the outside force control us. I am starting to learn how I can change / control my inner feelings so stay tuned and hang in there

Husband