To get too graphic for sure, H's lack of an erection is no barrier to hot sex. Unless you are one of those very rare women who has an O during intercourse unassisted and only in that manner, then it should not have much at all to do with you having an O.
Women REALLY need to shift their focus in sex off of the man's erection and ejaculation and onto their own O. Trust me, men are thinking and managing both their erection and ejaculation. You don't need to make it your focus.
So, what would happen if you went at sex as a sexual animal, someone who really was just interested in their own O (albeit with someone they love).
What would H do if you walked into the room with a vibrator and said: "H, I could really use some help with this? I don't think I can sleep tonight without at least two solid Os. Can you please help me out by ________________? e.g. telling me your dirtiest fantasy in great detail..."
If he declines your help, get a good night's sleep, having taken care of it yourself.
